Shame and Self-Judgment As Motivators
While most of us use them pretty freely, shame and self-judgment are pretty crappy motivators.
The Motivational Triad
There’s something about your brain that’s going to change the way you think about why you tend to repeat those same old patterns that you hate.
“This Is Going To Be Hard.”
"This is going to be hard.”
“This is going to be complicated.”
“This is going to be a lot of work.”
Goldilocks Planning
Hey lawyers - A planning tip for you.
I call this Goldilocks planning, and the purpose of it is to make sure that no matter how busy you are at work, no matter how slow you are at work, you still got some sort of plan for taking care of yourself.
Calendar Out of Control?
Staring at a calendar packed with back-to-back meetings? Welp. There goes the to-do list for the day. It’ll be waiting for you at 9PM tonight. Yikes.
A To-Do List Perspective Shift
Want to feel better about your to-do list without having to take any items off?
Decisionmaking Obstacle 8: Not Wanting to Feel Your Feelings
The reason for most of our choices – the reason we do or don’t do something – is because we want to feel a certain emotion or don’t want to feel a certain emotion.
Decisionmaking Obstacle 7: Lack of Clarity
Sometimes the reason we struggle to make a decision is because we aren’t clear on the results that we want to create in our lives. Or we don’t know what our priorities are.
Decisionmaking Obstacle 6: Fear of Wasting Time and Money
“I don’t want to waste my time and/or money.”
Decisionmaking Obstacle No. 5: The Myth of Certainty
“I just need a little more time and/or information…”
Decisionmaking Obstacle 3: Fear of Being Judged
We think we care what other people think about us and our decisions.
That’s not usually the real issue…
Decisionmaking Obstacle 2: Worrying About Other People’s Feelings
“They are going to be so upset with me!”
Indecision Fatigue: How It Impacts You and What Causes It
The weight of unmade decisions is heavier than you think.
Stop Chasing Other Versions of You
What if the most fulfilled version of you is the one that stops trying to be the “best” version of you?
Why You Struggle to Rest
Resting is hard for some people. Especially high-achievers. (Ahem. That’s you.)
You Don’t Have to Dread Billing Your Time
Billing your time is a non-negotiable part of working at most law firms. And yet, so many lawyers struggle with it.
A Message for Newer Lawyers
Hey newer lawyers! I hear you telling yourself this over and over:
“I should be better.”
“I should be faster.”
“I should know how to do this.”
“I should have done that differently.”
“I shouldn’t have made that mistake.”
An Unhelpful Assumption
How often are you assuming you’re doing a bad job—even though there’s no actual evidence to back that assumption up?