The Irresistible “Yes”

Ever say “yes” to helping out a colleague even though your plate is already way too full?

It feels good to be seen as the go-to person. But then the “yes” starts to haunt you when you realize you’ve got no idea where this extra work fits. Cue the late nights, the stress, and the resentment creeping in.

We’ve all been there — wanting to be helpful, likable, or just a team player, even if it costs us. And while it’s totally understandable, it doesn’t make it any less overwhelming when you’re staring at a to-do list that feels impossible.

Here’s the shift: Saying no isn’t about letting people down. It’s about setting boundaries that protect your energy, your time, and your ability to deliver your best work. And when you do take something on? It’s got to be with intention, not obligation.

Here’s how to get there:

1️⃣ Pause Before You Say Yes: Instead of committing on the spot, practice saying, “Let me check my workload and get back to you.” This gives you breathing room to decide intentionally.
2️⃣ Get Real About Your Capacity: Take a hard look at your current commitments. What’s urgent, and what’s important? Where does this new request fit?
3️⃣ Set Boundaries Clearly: If it doesn’t fit, be honest: “I’d love to help, but I’m at capacity right now. Here’s an alternative suggestion…” If it does fit, define what you can realistically deliver and by when.

When you stop defaulting to “yes,” you create more space for what truly matters. The result? Less stress, fewer late nights, and more respect from colleagues who see you as someone with clear priorities and boundaries.

This isn’t about being unhelpful — it’s about being intentional. When you honor your limits, you show up better for yourself, your work, and yes, even your colleagues.

Have you ever felt stuck in a “yes” you didn’t have room for?