A Distinction With A Difference

Do you actually want to? 

Or do you just think you should? 

This is a distinction WITH a difference.

Ever notice where you are telling yourself that you want to do something, but you aren’t actually doing it?

Ask yourself:

Do you actually want to do it? Or do you just think you should?

For whatever the reason. Because someone else is doing it. Because someone told you should. Because you are worried about what other people will think or feel. Because you will feel ashamed or guilty if you don’t do it. Because it’s some idea you unconsciously picked up from somewhere and adopted it as your own. 

We spend an awful lot of time telling themselves they should do things they don’t actually want to do. They all typically boil down to the same reasons - we believe that our worth is based on what other people think of us, that we need to prioritize everyone around us over ourselves, and that we are never enough just as we are. Because that’s what we’ve been told. 

That’s 100% incorrect. But it feels very true. 

The first step to untangling that is awareness. Asking yourself these kinds of questions:

Do you actually want to do it?

Or do you just think you should?

And if you think you should, why? 

Now for the most important question: Even if you think you should, do you like your reasons? 

If you like your reasons for doing whatever it is, it’s going to be much easier to do.