I used to confuse my anxiety with intuition all the time. 

But anxiety and intuition are not the same.

Goodbye anxiety dreams about not being able to find my locker or my classroom and showing up for that test not knowing I had one - hello anxiety dreams about hosting webinars!

Most high-achieving women have a productivity mindset (because we are taught to have one). Especially women lawyers. 

“I’m not doing enough.”

This thought pops into my head a lot.

I know you want to be better at managing your time. 

If you’re prone to catastrophizing (spinning out in the worst case scenario), “just think positive” is useless advice.

This thought pattern REALLY isn’t helping you: “They are disrespecting my time.”

A question I’m always pondering for myself and my clients: Where can we cultivate a paradox mindset?

Ever felt like your mind's default setting is “worst-case scenario”? Same here.

I get a small burst of joy when people cancel things. Even things I was looking forward to. I rarely experience disappointment or annoyance, and if I do, they are very temporary.

There is no such thing as a perfect “no”

I used to be a Master Catastrophizer. (Say that three times fast.)

Dear associates–

Lawyer brain loves to catastrophize-i.e., to focus on and spin in the worst-case scenario.

Repeatedly thinking or talking about how “behind” you “feel.”

The average person will spend around one-third of their life at work. That’s tens of thousands of hours of your life. 

TENS OF THOUSANDS.

(That doesn’t include the unpaid labor at home that women tend to do the bulk of.)

If you want to advocate for yourself more often, you can both decrease your discomfort with it and expand your capacity for taking action despite your discomfort. 

Most women will come to a point in their career where putting their head down and working hard just isn’t enough any more. 

An important question.

I was talking to a client recently about a thought error that she had, and it's one that I see it a lot of my clients, so I wanted to share with you. 

What she was doing was she was mistaking her level of comfort with an activity with how good she was at that activity.