An imperfect “no” is still a “no”

There is no such thing as a perfect “no”

No is a complete sentence of course. But I think if you’re not great at saying “no,” if it feels really uncomfortable, you can hear that and decide there’s something wrong with you because you can’t say “no” without an explanation.

A “no” is still a “no” if you explained yourself or justified it (in fact, I actually think justifying your “no” or explaining your “no” or offering an alternative is a great way to foster a good work relationship).

A “no” is still a “no” even if it takes you a couple of times to say it

A "no" is still a "no" if someone doesn't react well to it

A “no” is still a “no” if you felt flustered or embarrassed or stumbled over your words

A “no” is still a “no” even if you said “yes” initially and had to backtrack. 

A “no” is still a “no” if you said “yes” but limited your commitment.

A “no” is still a “no” if you said - not right now and offered an alternative deadline

There is no right way to say "no." Ditching that thought is going to make it so much easier for you to say it, and saying “no” more often is probably something that would serve you well. 

A ♥️ note to you: If you want to say “no” more often, I can help. My clients become experts at saying “no” when it serves them. Sign up for a free call with me at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult. On the call, we will (1) assess where you are now and where you want to be, (2) I’ll tell you how coaching can help get you there, and (3) you’ll decide whether you’re ready to move forward with changing your life.