The Implicit “Yes”

It’s easy to spot where you are explicitly saying "yes" when you’d rather be saying "no."

Someone makes an ask of you, and you say, “yes.”

But what about all the *implicit* yeses?

Where no one actually asked you to do something, but you assumed the responsibility.

Or where someone else could have done it, but you volunteered because it felt uncomfortable not to.

Or where someone sent you a late night email that didn’t require a late night response, but you gave one anyway.

Or where someone gave you a deadline or scheduled a meeting at a time that didn’t work well for you, but you didn’t push back.

Those are all a yes to something.

And a no to something else.

If you find yourself overworking, constantly feeling behind or overwhelmed, volunteering to do things you don’t actually want to do and don’t get compensated for, prioritizing email or other messages over substantive work, or if you’re on the way to burnout…

All those implicit and explicit yeses are a no to you. They are a no to the life you want to live. The career you want to have. The way you want to feel.

Once you start understanding (1) all of the places where you are saying yes, even when you don't realize it, and (2) what all those yeses are actually a no to - you can start swapping out the yes for no in a way that serves you. 

A ♥️ note to you: This is the exact work I do with my clients. If you’re ready to start swapping yes for no, hop on a free call with me to hear how coaching can help. You can sign up at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult.