Fear Masked as Confusion

When we have decisions we need or want to make, confusion can often be a cover up for fear.

Sometimes you might actually be confused. But a lot of the time you do know what you want. You do know what to do. You do know which option to pick.

You’re just afraid you can’t have it. 

You’re afraid it won’t work out.

You’re afraid it will be too hard. 

You’re afraid you’ll fail. 

You’re afraid it won’t feel the way you think it should. 

You’re afraid there’s a “wrong” decision and you don’t want to pick that one. 

You’re afraid that of the way you will think about and talk to yourself and the way you will feel if things don’t work out the way you want. 

That fear is completely normal.

Your brain hates uncertainty.

That’s a real problem for your brain because life is uncertain.

100% certainty isn’t ever really an option.

So your brain pretends to be confused.

That allows you to remain “safe” without giving you any net positive result. Keeping you exactly where you are.

If you knew everything would work out perfectly or if you knew there was no chance of failure, what option would you pick?

Alternatively, if you knew that either way you were going to have to feel a bunch of negative emotion (because that’s 100% the case), which one would you choose?

If you were only allowed to choose the thing that had the potential to move you towards the life you wanted, what would you do? 

What decision would you make?

Pick THAT option. Make THAT decision. 

And decide now what you will think about that decision—and more importantly, what you will think about yourself—if it doesn’t go exactly how you hoped.