Logic vs. Your Emotions
Your emotions don’t always seem logical.
Feeling guilty for not doing enough despite meeting or exceeding your hours.
Feeling anxious about someone being mad at you even when they say they aren’t.
Feeling overwhelmed despite always managing to get things done.
Feeling self-doubt despite no negative feedback or even in the face of positive feedback.
Feeling selfish when you do something for yourself, even when work is slow or your to-do list is done or you know you need it.
But they are logical in a way.
Because underneath your surface level efforts to logic yourself out of those emotions, there is something else happening in your brain.
A deep-seated belief that you’ve had for so long you probably don’t know where you picked it up. Or that you don’t even know is there.
Like the idea your value as a human being comes from what and how much you do.
Or that your value as a human being is determined by the opinion of others.
Or that being busy is a badge of honor.
Or that your value as a human being comes from how much you do for others.
Or that your wants, needs, and desires are less important than those of other people.
Or that being lazy is the worst thing you can be.
Most of us have been taught some version of these ideas, and they are automatically running in the background of our brains all the time.
Those beliefs are what are causing those emotions that seem illogical.
And sprinkling a little bit of logic (even really good logic) on top of them often doesn’t make them go away. The neural pathways are too deep for that.
Instead, you have to do the work of understanding what your set of beliefs is, untangling those beliefs, and developing new ones. And learning how to feel your emotions rather than trying to avoid or resist them.
💡Which of these sneaky deep-seated beliefs resonates with you?
If it has to do with how much you do or how busy you are, I’ve got something that might help. I put together a free guide with 10 practical tips to help you feel less busy and more in control: https://mailchi.mp/jenndealcoaching/10ways.
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