The Overachieving On and Off Switch

Where are my overachievers at? 

A question for you: How selective are you about when you overachieve?

Overachieving sounds like such a good thing.

In reality, it isn’t good or bad. It just is. 

But when it comes from a place of tying your self-worth to achievement and external validation, it often leads to the opposite of what overachievers want. 

Overworking and underperforming. 

Overpromising and underdelivering. 

Constantly hustling for your self-worth and coming up short because you don’t actually give yourself the time and mental energy to do things well. 

This kind of overachieving isn’t sustainable, doesn’t work, and leads to a lot of negative thoughts about yourself. 

I like to overachieve. I like to overdeliver. I like to overperform. 

And that’s okay. 

But I also don’t make it mean anything about me if I don’t. 

If I CHOOSE not to.

I decide when I want to overachieve and why. 

Do I like my reasons? 

Or am I hustling for my self-worth? Hustling for external validation? 

Or am I equating overachieving with overworking or how much I work? (They are not the same).

If I don’t like my reasons, I don’t do it. 

It sounds simple. 

And it is. 

But it isn’t easy. 

You have a lifetime of socialization to start unwinding. 

A lifetime of messaging that our society values productivity and achievement above all else.

A lifetime of tying your self-worth to productivity and achievement. 

BUT that unwinding process is so worth it. 

Even just a little bit of unwinding. A little bit of awareness. It will create shifts for you that you can’t imagine right now. 

A ❤️ note to you:

It can feel daunting when you start to think about unwinding any kind of social conditioning. Longstanding thought patterns. Longstanding stories about yourself and your life. It helps to have someone in your corner that has 100% belief in your current wholeness and an objective eye to help you see where the stories and conditioning are holding you back. I love helping lawyerswith exactly this. Send me an email (jenn@jenndealcoaching.com) or sign up for a free call with me at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult. Let the unwinding begin.