Decisionmaking Obstacle 4: Fear of Missing Out
It makes sense that FOMO can lead or contribute to indecision. We always want to make the “best” choice, and we wish we could do all the things.
But we can’t.
And you’re always “missing out” on something.
Anytime we choose to do anything (regardless of whether that choice is intentional or unintentional), we are choosing to do it in lieu of something else.
In fact, being indecisive also causes you to miss out. Missing out on or delaying whatever the result of the decision is we aren’t making.
We are even missing out on opportunities all the time that we didn’t know existed!
The real problem is when we define it as “missing out.”
When you think, “I’m missing out,” how does that make you feel?
You feel regret, anxiety, or fear.
You ruminate on “what might have been.”
You second-guess your choices or avoid making one altogether.
Ironically, this mindset causes you to miss out on the present moment and the opportunities that come with committing to a decision.
If FOMO keeps you stuck, here’s how to approach it differently:
1️⃣ Redefine “Missing Out”
What exactly are you afraid of missing? How else could you frame this? For example, could it be about choosing rather than losing?
2️⃣ Focus on What You Gain
What does each option offer that aligns with your values and priorities? What action would move you closer to the life you want to lead?
3️⃣ Recreate the Feeling
If you’re drawn to the experience you’ll “miss,” what feeling are you hoping for? How can you create that feeling in another way, right now?
4️⃣ Trust Your Future Self
What choice would your future self thank you for?
FOMO is just your brain doing what it does: scanning for threats and focusing on what you “lack.” It’s normal. But you can interrupt that pattern by redirecting your thoughts toward what truly matters to you—today, and in the long term.
A ❤️ note to you: Got a big decision you’re facing? Just generally wish you were more decisive? Let’s do something about it. I help my clients learn how to make faster decisions, with less drama, guilt, overwhelm, and anxiety. Send me an email (jenn@jenndealcoaching.com) or schedule a free call with me at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult to get started.
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