Brains love to pretend to be confused.

But more often than not, the confusion isn’t real.

It’s usually masking fear. 

Fear that you will make the “wrong” decision. Fear that you will regret the decision. Fear about what you will think about yourself in the future. Fear about what you will feel if things don’t work out the way you want.

And that’s okay.

It’s completely normal.

Our brains hate uncertainty.

That’s a real problem for our brains because life is uncertain.

100% certainty just isn’t an option.

So our brains pretend to be confused.

Which allows us to remain “safe” from the uncertainty by maintaining the status quo, which feels certain, but in reality isn’t.

Confusion is rarely a helpful emotion.

When your brain tells you “I don’t know”...

Question it.

What if you did know? What is the confusion trying to mask?

If you knew everything would work out perfectly or if you knew there was no chance of failure and no one would have any negative thoughts about you or your decision, what option would you pick?

Alternatively, if you knew that either way was going to require you to feel a bunch of negative emotions (because you are a human), what would you choose?

What decision would you make?

I bet you do know what you want. I bet you do know what you prefer.

Pick THAT option. Make THAT decision.

(If you truly still don’t know, trust your gut and take one step in one direction. Action generates clarity. Ruminating does not.)

Because you can decide now what you will think about that decision in the future—what you will think about YOURSELF—if it doesn’t go exactly how you hoped.

There is no such thing as an objectively right or wrong decision.

Here’s how you know you made the right decision: You decide that you did.

Prolonging or abandoning decisions (by just never making them) takes up brain space and energy you could use for deciding to be proud of yourself for making a decision and being proud of the decision.

And even when you don’t make a decision, you are effectively deciding. But without any intentionality. And allowing something or someone else to make your decisions for you.

What is your brain telling you are confused about?

What if you actually aren’t?

A ❤️ note to you: If you find yourself spiraling in confusion, that’s totally normal. It’s what brains do. But you can also build the self-trust you need to decrease the amount of confusion you experience. I’d love to help you learn to have your own back - just sign up for a free consult with me to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult or send me an email (jenn@jenndealcoaching.com).