What experience are you creating for yourself?
There were parts of my BigLaw experience that I loved. Lots of them.
There were parts that I didn’t love. Lots of these too.
Some of what I didn’t love I didn’t have any control over.
But a good portion of what I didn’t love was entirely in my control.
In fact, I was actually creating what I didn’t love by not exercising that control.
I could control:
▫ The way that I thought about and talked to myself
▫ The way I thought about my job and the people I interacted with
▫ How much work I was willing to accept and the type of work I was willing to do
▫ Whether I set boundaries
▫ What I was willing to ask for
▫ What I was willing to say “yes” or “no” to
▫ How (and how much) I was willing to show up for myself
▫ What I was willing to prioritize
▫ How I reacted to the world around me
▫ What my values were and whether I showed up aligned with those
▫ What relationships I valued and cultivated and how
▫ How I defined success
Once I learned how to distinguish between those things, to start exerting more control where I could, and to accept the things I couldn’t, my entire experience of my career changed. It became something I knew was sustainable and that I would enjoy for as long as I chose to enjoy it.
Yours can too. I can help.
And like me, you may still ultimately decide that it isn’t for you even though it could be sustainable and enjoyable. Because you want something else. Something that’s even better for you. Or you might choose to stay because you love your reasons and you actually love your job once you start taking charge of your experience. No right answer there. Both are possible outcomes once you start taking control over your career.
A ❤️ note to you: Let’s get started making you feel better. More in control. More confident. Calmer. Less anxious and overwhelmed. Less reactive. Want to know more? Sign up for a free call with me at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult. On the call, we will (1) talk about the changes you want to see in your life, (2) I’ll tell you how coaching can help you make them, and (3) you’ll decide whether you’re ready to move forward with changing your life.
