Overachieving sounds like such a good thing.

In reality, it isn’t good or bad. 

It just is. 

But when it comes from a place of tying your self worth to achievement and external validation, it often leads to the opposite of what overachievers want. 

Overworking and underperforming. 

Overpromising and underdelivering. 

Constantly hustling for your self worth and coming up short because you don’t actually give yourself the time and mental energy to do things well. 

This kind of overachieving isn’t sustainable, doesn’t work, and it leads to a lot of negative thoughts about yourself. 

I like to overachiever. I like to overdeliver. I like to overperform. 

And that’s okay. 

But I also don’t make it mean anything about me if I don’t. 

If I CHOOSE not to.

I decided when I want to overachieve and why. 

Do I like my reasons? 

Or am I hustling for my self worth? Hustling for external validation? 

Or am I equating overachieving with overworking or how much I work? (They are not the same).

If I don’t like my reasons, I don’t do it. 

It sounds simple. 

And it is. 

But it isn’t easy. 

You have a lifetime of socialization to start unwinding. 

A lifetime of messaging that our society values productivity and achievement above all else.

A lifetime of tying your self-worth to productivity and achievement. 

BUT that unwinding process is so worth it. 

Even just a little bit of unwinding. A little bit of awareness. It will create shifts for you that you can’t imagine right now. 


A love note to you: 

It can feel daunting when you start to think about unwinding any kind of social conditioning. Longstanding thought patterns. Longstanding stories about yourself and your life. It helps to have someone in your corner that has enough belief for the both of you. An objective eye to help you see where the stories and conditioning are holding you back. I love helping women with exactly this. Send me a DM or sign up for a free consult at jenndealcoaching.as.me/consult. Let the unwinding begin. 

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